When I was a new therapist, the largest question on my mind was “how do I ensure I’m helping?” which often led me around to the question, “how does therapy work?” To answer these questions, I spent a lot of time with textbooks such as The Heart and Soul of Change, and The Great Psychotherapy Debate (which I wrote about in a blog here). This exploration eventually led me to seminars and trainings with Scott D Miller, one of the preeminent experts on Outcomes in Psychotherapy. I have been measuring outcomes in my private practice…
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Erotic intelligence is a concept created by Esther Perel, a Belgian-born psychotherapist, author of the best-selling book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. This book discusses the conflict between sex and intimacy that afflicts many modern couples. It’s worth spending time to examine the key concepts of Erotic Intelligence and how to apply them to cultivate healthy sexuality in intimate relationships.
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There’s a contradiction that sometimes occurs when someone comes into therapy. A client will sit down and express certainty about their inadequacy, badness, and helplessness yet they are entering a space expecting to change. They experience the ambivalence between feeling the belief in their badness, inadequacy, and helplessness is true and expecting that it can be shown to be not true.
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